Love Language: Quality Time

We often truly appreciate the people who give us their time. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a part of their life. But nothing compares to spending that time in your own company giving yourself your own life.

This means getting to know yourself: spending enough time alone without the fear of missing out, listening to how your body speaks to you, noticing how you speak to yourself, and observing the thoughts you think about life, people, and about yourself. From this space of awareness, you can prioritise the material things you truly need and adopt daily practices that enhance your whole being or, if necessary, reprogram yourself.

Take a moment to really consider the concept of reprogramming. Ever watched The Matrix? When Neo was told he might be the One, they had to programme his mind with certain abilities, but it wasn’t enough just to know them; he had to practice them in training before fully using them inside the Matrix.

Now, back to reality:
It takes deliberate, quality time with yourself to see and accept the factors within you that are shaping your current experience. Enhancing or changing your life requires even more quality time and money. Time you might otherwise spend out with family or friends; money you might instead spend on gifts, drinks, or a trip abroad. Hence, making your love especially your love for yourself very expensive.

Retail therapy is easy and quick. Booking a trip for a change of scenery can be too.
But committing to a life where you consistently gift yourself the Love Language of Quality Time?
That’s demanding. And that’s priceless!

Take health, for example. I’m no fitness guru or nutritionist, but it’s clear that health is about more than exercise and diet trends. We often hear “Health is Wealth,” and it can mean many things:
— Wealth for pharmaceutical companies, if health is neglected.
— True freedom and abundance, if health is nurtured.

To experience health as personal wealth, it requires you to listen and learn you. What’s healthy for one person might be another person’s poison.

Recently, family visiting from abroad remarked how surprised they were to see so many people running in the city. For some, it’s simply following a trend. Not everyone has the knees or ankles for daily runs. If you listen to your body, it might just need you to walk 30 minutes a few times a week carrying your groceries. Or perhaps you’ll discover that swimming, team sports, or something else entirely is what truly energises you.

And when it comes to eating, just because the internet hails avocados as a superfood doesn’t mean your body agrees. Over the years, speaking with vibrant elders, I’ve found that longevity often comes down not just to physical habits, but to mindset, attitude towards life, and deeply personal principles.

And so, perhaps the greatest journey you could ever embark on is the one inward not rushed, not trendy, but tender and honest. A life of true wealth might not be found in loud achievements or fleeting moments, but in the quiet conversations you have with yourself when no one else is watching. Imagine what might unfold if you gifted yourself the same time and attention you’ve so freely given to others. What dreams, what ideas, what healing could rise to the surface?


Prioritise your inner work with the same urgency you would a major financial investment.
Because when you invest in knowing and nurturing yourself, the returns are limitless and the life you create will be richer, freer, and far more fulfilling than anything money alone could ever buy.

After all, if time is money, then your love is and always will be very expensive.